Saturday, November 3, 2012

"Can he behave?'

It is no secret that our son Dane struggles e.v.e.r.y.d.a.y.

He tries to keep his impulses under control, at least most of the time, and he usually fails.

Yes, he asks the same thing over and over and over and over...

And, he cries a lot.

He has intense anxiety and worries too much.

To many strangers he looks naughty...not normal.

I wish I could tell them all that he tries.

He struggles.

Everyday we start over.

Everyday we work at over coming.

Everyday we learn.

Sometimes we fail.

Sometimes we succeed.

I wish I could tell them all that he is a normal boy.

He hurts and feels just like the rest of us.

This world just feels a little different to him than to the rest of us.

It is not wrong how he feels, it is just different.

He deserves everything wonderful just like us all.

I wish they could see him like I see him.

I wish they would give him a chance.

They would be surprised- he is wonderful.

He has overcome so much.

He has grown and changed and made so much progress.

If they really knew, they would be so proud of my boy.

Dane has taught me something. I need to see everyone thru the eyes of Jesus and not take behaviors or actions at face value. Sometimes I just need to look a little deeper. I am sure many that I judge, feel like I do about my Dane- they wish I could see them...their hearts. I bet if I looked closely I would be surprised too.



John 7:24

24 Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”


Melissa said...

Oh Becca, I get it! Our son, who is 3, has the same issues! I had to carry him out of somewhere yesterday kicking, screaming and swinging while all eyes were on us. It really has been hard for my pride, but then again, it is something our Father knew I needed to deal with in myself (not implying you needed to, please don't misunderstand!). So thankful for His grace and mercy and thank you for the scripture!! Praying for you and your beautiful family!

Becca said...

Melissa, it is hard for the pride, esp. when all eyes are on us! The Father knew that I needed work in this area too. I will be praying for your family!! It sounds like our 3 y.o boys are a lot alike. I know that God has big plans for your son and mine(and the rest of our wonderful children too)!

"Fear not for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you... For I am the Lord your God..
~Isiah 43:1-3